Table 3 Analytic codes
Meaning unit | Code | Sub-category | Category |
|---|---|---|---|
“When I come to this center and listen to the psychologist, I feel much better” “My neurologist tells me not to stress too much. He told me if you want to suicide, go and have hearings with her” | -Seeking counseling - Participating in peer support groups -Getting assistance from a counselor -Visiting a pre-counselor -Following the advice of a psychologist | Seeking support from professionals | Comprehensive seeking support |
“I came to told my sons, let’ go, do something; she is tarnishing our honor within the family” “Usually, people such as siblings within the family are more focused on your weakness, I mean relatives. You may not be able to speak them, but a stranger, if could not offering your solution, at least They won't disrespect you for your weaknesses | -Sharing problems with children -Request help to relieve tension -Sharing information people strangers for empathy -Seeking asylum with strangers -A confidant to listen to troubles and sorrows -Seeking help from spouse -Talking to others for solution -Collaborating with spouse -Calling children during distress -Seeking support from children | Seeking support from community | |
“I love coming to the park, where I hope to find a confidant or a friend who can provide me with a good solution to help me navigate through my difficulties and share my feelings with her” | -Lack of solution due to the absence of supportive laws in the community -Inaction due to overlooking domestic violence issues in courts -Willingness to seek help in filing a complaint with the judicial authority if available -Efforts to ignite action | Seeking protection from the law | |
“Praying and performing prayers are what bring me relaxation; it help me to discharge of my excitement and keep my secrets, as I believe in God” “I go to the Quran gathering, I send blessings” | -Performing prayers -Engaging in supplication -Establishing spiritual connection with religious leaders (Imams) -Entrusting oneself to God -Participating in religious rituals | Using spiritual strategies | Adopting effective strategies |
“When there's an argument between me my husband at home, I change the atmosphere. For instance, even though I have nothing to do in the kitchen at that moment, I go there and I'm busy with kitchen utensils or I suddenly go to the bathroom and stand in front of the bathroom mirror, pretending to clean” “I say whatever you say is correct because my husband is very temperamental. If I try to argue with him, he starts shouting and swearing, so I just say him whatever you say is correct” | Efforts to normalize the situation: -Trying to stay calm -Being patient -Enduring Hope for a better future to escape harassment: -Changing the environment by moving from one room to another -Avoiding stressful environments -Empowering oneself -Striving for financial independence -Not relying on arguments and conflicts -Not insisting on one's point during fight -Walking away from arguments during quarrels -Not insisting on one's ideas during arguments | Self-help | |
“When I'm talking to on the phone; it has a lot of these behaviors. Sometimes, it leaves its mobile phone on to record my voice until he see who I'm talking to. I don't have any freedom at home at all” “It's constantly either upset with me or with my daughter. I don't tolerate it, and I get upset too” “Whenever my daughter and I go out, it interrogates us about where we're going and where we've been” “When I get really angry, I tell that it's wicked, and tells me to go to a nursing home and find something to do there and stay there and work” “I cry a lot” “In arguments, I either blame myself or curse my deceased mother because I think she's the reason I ended up with this man “Sometimes when life becomes bitter for me, I tell myself to end it to find peace” | -Regretting not having a shelter during marital violence -Unwillingness to engage in social activities -Feeling trapped in daily routines -Crying -Screaming - Swearing because of intolerance -Grumbling -Getting angry -Hiding -Lying -Cursing -Blaming the mother for the marriage -Getting upset -nagging | Ineffective usual responses | Adopting Ineffective Strategies |
“When my husband makes me angry, I tell myself to go to the desert” “When I fight with my husband, I feel crazy, I want to eat something and kill myself” | -Thinking about escaping from home -Planning suicide -I hit myself | Ineffective Immediate Responses | |
“We changed many caregivers because they were bothering us a lot. Although they were hired through the Ministry of Labor, each one of them was troublesome in their own way” “A care giver came our home after a while, she took my belongings. I had several blankets, and she stole them all”. “One of care givers had a child who scribbled all over my furniture with crayons and toys. When my daughter came to clean and tidy up, she saw that all the furniture was torn and punctured “There was someone who threatened me one night saying, I will strangle you and throw you in the yard. I will tell everyone that you did it yourself." “My nephew used to come and visit me. When he saw me alone, he said,"Aunt, come with me. There is a place where are all elderly ladies. I will take you there, and you will live comfortably. You won't be alone. I really love him but I'm not comfortable here now. The situation here is not good, I won't say here.” | -Acceptance of nursing homes -Willingness to go to a nursing home due to the lack of commitment from multiple home caregivers -Residing in a nursing home as a final solution -Not being harmed by prolonged loneliness at home as a reason for staying in a nursing home -Lack of trust in home caregivers Acceptance of nursing homes due to pressure from relatives -Staying in a nursing home despite inner desires | Final destination | Freedom from the dead-end of life with aging |
“I cannot easily make a phone call to anyone. Sometimes he murmurs, saying, How much you talk! Why does so-and-so have to come to our house? Why do you want to go somewhere like to a party, and so on? I can't have anyone I like to come and go. That's why I've cut off communication. My eldest daughter can't come to our house. I don't open the door to anyone at home” “We don't have any entertainment at all. We're always at home. We can't freely go on a trip” | -Feeling imprisoned -Cutting off communication with others -Cutting off communication with spouse's family and relatives -Cutting off communication with children | Living during isolation |